In our first blog of this two part series, we talked about the 5 key factors for dating success and the importance of preparation. In this blog, we’re going to discuss the remaining 3 factors: time, opportunity, and luck.
In one of my favorite books, Outliers, author Malcolm Gladwell said that you need about 10,000 hours of practice to achieve something major, and I think it’s true for dating. If you’re just starting to date, understand that it can take some time, perhaps years, before meeting the right person. You need all the time you can get. And that means:
- Making dating a priority. When I decided that I was ready to settle down and find a relationship, I decided that I was not going to pursue a management position at work for a few years, knowing the extra time commitment working after hours would eat up my time dating. I have the rest of my life to work, but I only had a certain window of time to date and get this right. After I married Alena, I pursued and landed a management position.
- Dating efficiently. In other words, don’t waste time dating the wrong people, and increase as much time as you can dating people who match you and what you’re looking for. It’s not just about the quantity of dates, it’s about getting a high quantity of quality dates. In my last year of being single and by the time I met Alena, my dating efficiency was high. I knew what I wanted and didn’t want, and was able to turn down girls who were incompatible from the first conversation or first date, even attractive one’s, and focus my energy towards girls who had similar interests and goals in life.