Before the Third Date
- Keep your options open. Before the third date, I think it is fair game to keep your options open and date other people casually if you haven’t committed to dating anyone exclusive. It’s not about being a player – it’s about dating efficiently. It's about giving yourself as many options as possible in case something doesn’t work out, and not making the mistake of going too fast with anyone too soon. The first or second date can be unpredictable. The person you’re dating may be dating someone else casually, and may be gone tomorrow. It’s good to be dating someone else casually if possible so you don’t put all your eggs in one basket too soon, and you don’t get too head over heels for someone, which can scare them away.
But I caution about keeping the options open too far into the distance – after three or more dates, you should have a better sense of who is a better fit, and you should respectfully narrow the dates down.
- Rejection is likely to happen. You’ll find as you go on more dates, most of them end before date three. It’s normal and happens to everyone, and although it can sting after a while of going through it over and over again, just move on and take whatever lessons you can draw from them. Write the experience down in a dating journal. Rejection sucks, but I can assure you that it’ll pass, and when you meet the right person, you’ll look back and may even feel like you dodged a bullet!